Amazing Disgrace: A Book About "Shame"
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'An outpouring of truth， wit， and beautiful comedic wisdom。' Katherine Ryan
'Such a funny and interesting book。' Sara Pascoe
'Finally my vagina has a voice！' London Hughes
'Powerful， bold， vulnerable， beautiful， hilarious， universal， unique。' Scarlett Curtis
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For as long as she can remember， Grace Campbell has been told that she doesn't suit her name。 But being graceful is no fun anyway。
Growing up in a world of privilege and politics， she had a lot to feel confident about。 But she was also a record-breaker when it came to feeling shame。 Shame about sex， shame about rejection， shame about mental health。
But over time， and with a 24 carat gold dose of female friendship， Grace has turned shame into a defiant sense of self。 At only 27， Grace has got a lot to learn about being an adult， but she's already got a lot to share about being a disgrace， and how she came to be utterly， disgustingly， disgracefully proud of it。
This is the book every young woman should read， and every young man should worry about。
'Such a funny and interesting book。' Sara Pascoe
'Finally my vagina has a voice！' London Hughes
'Powerful， bold， vulnerable， beautiful， hilarious， universal， unique。' Scarlett Curtis
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For as long as she can remember， Grace Campbell has been told that she doesn't suit her name。 But being graceful is no fun anyway。
Growing up in a world of privilege and politics， she had a lot to feel confident about。 But she was also a record-breaker when it came to feeling shame。 Shame about sex， shame about rejection， shame about mental health。
But over time， and with a 24 carat gold dose of female friendship， Grace has turned shame into a defiant sense of self。 At only 27， Grace has got a lot to learn about being an adult， but she's already got a lot to share about being a disgrace， and how she came to be utterly， disgustingly， disgracefully proud of it。
This is the book every young woman should read， and every young man should worry about。
Reviews
Ayesha
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 This debut book from Grace Campbell has changed my life， to be honest。 I didn’t know I needed it， or that I’d relate to it so much， but Amazing Disgrace has made me really reflect on the normalised shame I feel most days of my life and has helped me to question why it is that I feel it in the first place。Amazing Disgrace is a candid， humorous and introspective reflection on Grace Campbell’s personal experiences of shame， with chapters drawing upon the big guns like romantic conquests， rejection， This debut book from Grace Campbell has changed my life， to be honest。 I didn’t know I needed it， or that I’d relate to it so much， but Amazing Disgrace has made me really reflect on the normalised shame I feel most days of my life and has helped me to question why it is that I feel it in the first place。Amazing Disgrace is a candid， humorous and introspective reflection on Grace Campbell’s personal experiences of shame， with chapters drawing upon the big guns like romantic conquests， rejection， sexual assault and mental health。 Sounds serious， but also expect gags about fanny farts， avoiding potential Tories at house parties and being a bodyguard for her dad when she was a kid。 In between her anecdotes， there’s witty observations observed of a culture we women buy into as part of an unspoken social contract when we’re toddlers。 I can honestly say I hadn’t thought too deeply about it until Campbell started pulling out examples left， right and centre。 I was floored。 I mean， when you think about it， shame is indoctrinated into little girls’ heads across pretty much all cultures and it taints， very toxically， the way they grow up to value themselves and value other women。I now see shame as this dirty little secret， which is bequeathed from one female generation to another。 We don’t choose to carry it， in fact， most of the time we don’t even know we are carrying it， because it’s so inherently coded into our behaviour and our attitudes。 But why？ Who decides what is shameful？ （*coughs* THE PATRIARCHY *coughs again*）。 And why are we still pandering， sacrificing our own pleasure and sanity in the process， to keep these shame police happy in 2021？These are the questions asked by Grace Campbell， who has a charming voice and a very unique story to tell as the daughter of infamous “spin-doctor” Alastair Campbell。 This woman is unashamedly herself from the outset: sex-positive， political， intelligent， hilarious and surprisingly very vulnerable， opening up about the kind of experiences we all have as young women， but very often fail to articulate。 An example of this is when she looks back at a history of accepting shitty behaviour from men and throws down some hard truths， before asking us readers to hold up a mirror and face our truths， too:“Mostly I was ashamed that I didn’t back myself more， that I didn’t know this wasn’t acceptable。 But the truth is， I was in a bad place and I didn’t rate myself enough to say no to just a bit of attention。 That’s what happens when we don’t rate ourselves highly- we self-destruct。 You’ve done that， too， right？ For my sanity， I hope your answer is yes。”p。 20。This book has made me resurrect my journal and， honestly， when I deliver my comprehensive write-up on the revelations I’ve had during this pandemic in my next session， it will be my therapist’s wet dream come to life。For that， I thank Ms Campbell。There are also a few other things I thank her for， things that I absolutely loved in this cutely illustrated lil’ book that I will definitely be passing onto friends:I love her celebration of female friendship groups and how they can provide the same sort of value， if not more， to our sense of self than romantic relationships。 I totes relate to this and have genuinely wondered on many occasions how I would still be standing were it not for the lovely interventions of my fab friends when I’m up shit’s creek or about to make a very bad life decision at a house party full of strangers that don’t have my best interests at heart。 I love her ability to talk about how messy anxiety and depression can be， and how utterly normal it is to consider medication for such ailments。 Again， I can’t commend her enough for using her platform to bring awareness as to how common these illnesses really are and how important it is to try whatever it is that works for you， in order to recover。What I admire the most about Grace Campbell is that there’s no hiding behind a performance for her readers: her life is her literal material and she delves into it with a bravery that has me shook。 There’s no attempts of beating around the bush or ignoring the elephant in the room: Amazing Disgrace literally reads like a very personal journal with no censorship or conformity， in order to try and seem palatable to a universal audience。 I love Grace Campbell’s frankness about people。 There’s frequent jabs at the stiff upper lips of Etonians， middle-aged white men oblivious to their privilege and stale conquests who make you feel like shit for a bit， but serve their ultimate purpose when you’re going through a glow-up， as a solid reminder of what not to settle for。On the surface of it， I shouldn’t relate to Grace Campbell at all。 I’m a brown 26 year-old girl living in Bradford and my dad is nowhere near as influential （thank god？！） as her father。 I assumed I wouldn’t relate to her shenanigans on account of the fact she’s white and has grown up with privileges I couldn’t dream of ever having。 She proved my judgmental British-born， Bangladeshi blooded ass completely and utterly wrong。Most people will likely judge Grace for her relation to her father， as I unfairly did， but it’s refreshing and real empowering to see that she actually isn’t afraid of calling out anybody or anything。 She isn’t living in the shadows， adhering to the strict protocol of appearing dignified and poised to perfection 24/7。 She’s in her own limelight， talking about really difficult stuff， making the world her stage and being very brave in doing so。 Thank fuck for that， or else she’d be denying us her fabulous Instagram stories and advice on “Politicians as lovers”。Grace doesn’t hide her disdain for anybody， especially a certain Mr Tony Blair。 I would say， actually， that she celebrates it。 She remarks， at the beginning of the first chapter， “So， Tony Blair stole the thunder of my birth。” （p。 23） and then goes onto highlight every instance of this disgraced PM’s attempts to derail her childhood。 This is how she begins her depiction of an entire childhood lost to media scrutiny and fears about the welfare of her family， as paparazzi took up residence outside their home and delivered their barrage of heated opinions on the Iraq war。 After reading this， I felt like a right dickhead。 It is so easy to write off somebody else’s experiences due to them appearing to have more privileges than you， but I’d never thought about what she had in relation to what it cost her。 Things like her right to privacy or her relationships with her parents， which were inevitably strained by the bucktoothed allure of Blair。Another reason I related so much to the book was that there’s a self-awareness that runs throughout the chapters， acknowledging the intersectionality of women and their experiences， the common grounds and the vast differences across socioeconomic backgrounds， racial identities， sexualities and beyond。 As a brown female reader who is so used to reading the entitled perspectives of predominantly white men and women， who can’t really see outside of their own experiences， it’s been so wonderful to actually read a sincere voice who is reaching out to “other” readers and is capable of identifying， flat-out， why it’s so important to check yourself in today’s climate:“Just because I know there are people out there with more privilege than me doesn’t mean I don’t have to acknowledge the power structures that I’ve benefited from… Checking your privilege is a good first step， but saying that isn’t enough。 We can all do more to dismantle white supremacy。”p。 63。By the end of the book， I felt like I could have been Grace’s best mate if I’d just happened to live across the road from her or gone to her secondary school （also attended by Dua Lipa and Campbell won’t let you forget it）。 She’s the same age as me， of a liberal ideology （she hates Tories as much as I do， OMG！）， a massive feminist and she’s gone through alarmingly similar situations with regards to having mental breakdowns whilst abroad and being sexually assaulted/treated like a Kleenex by far too many members of the Dickheads Club。 On top of that， she’s at a point in her life where she just doesn’t give a shit anymore about playing up to other people’s expectations at the expense of her mental health。 We love to see it。I am a self-professed alcoholic bookworm who has spent a substantial period of her life falling into very similar traps as Grace Campbell。 I am only now beginning to realise how futile it is， trying to impress everybody （especially when they’re not worth my fantastic drunken renditions of Whitney Houston） and I genuinely feel a relief at having accidentally found an ally through the pages of her debut book。 This is an open invitation to Grace Campbell， which will undoubtedly be rebuffed （I don’t blame her， in retrospect， this is reading as a little bit stalker-ish but I’ve come so far so I can’t turn back）， but when you’re up North for your comedy tour （definitely will be buying tickets）， please let me buy you a cocktail and tell you how awesome you are？ That is all， j’adore。You can buy Amazing Disgrace here。And you should most definitely check out her Insta for daily fabulousness， you will not regret:https://www。instagram。com/disgracecam。。。 。。。more
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It was quite obvious this book was going to be outrageous just from the cover。 Even the first line made me think “this book is outrageous”， but the more I read， I realised that’s the point - this book seems like it’s outrageous， covering often-taboo topics like blowjobs， periods， fanny-farts。。。 but none of that really is outrageous at all。 It’s all completely normal。 And Grace is doing a marvellous job at normalising these things， especially for women。 I absolutely loved Grace’s pure honesty， ev It was quite obvious this book was going to be outrageous just from the cover。 Even the first line made me think “this book is outrageous”， but the more I read， I realised that’s the point - this book seems like it’s outrageous， covering often-taboo topics like blowjobs， periods， fanny-farts。。。 but none of that really is outrageous at all。 It’s all completely normal。 And Grace is doing a marvellous job at normalising these things， especially for women。 I absolutely loved Grace’s pure honesty， even though I kept thinking “omg her dad is Labour Party legend Alistair Campbell？！” But this fact made me like Grace even more。 Not because her dad is Alistair Campbell， but because she’s enough of her own person to not let that stop her from writing with full candidness and absolutely no filter！I snorted with laughter a lot during this book - and kept insisting my boyfriend （in bed beside me while I was reading） pause his YouTube video to listen to another hilarious extract。。。 after about the 5th snort and pause of YouTube video， he said “it’s okay， don’t feel you have to tell me everytime something is funny” which was probably a good thing as this book is funny A LOT。 Grace’s writing style is addictive and with chapter titles such as “Don’t work with men unless you have to” and “Head is overrated unless you’re in love” who wouldn’t want to read this？！ （Possibly Tory supporters wouldn’t want to actually， if you’ve read this book you’ll know what I mean）。 This book would 100% make the perfect gift for any feminist or any female that feels they need an encouraging boost in life！ It gets 5 stars from me！ J’ADORE！ 。。。more
Sarah Wallace
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